I was able to recognize triggers and self-sabotaging behaviors. I was able to take stock of my thoughts and actions...
Alhamdulilah, Allah ta'ala has guided me by bringing Aafiyah Healing by Brother Zuhair Girach onto my path. During the 4 weeks of the ACE programme, I was able to recognize triggers and self sabotaging behaviours. I was able to take stock of my thoughts and actions, I was given the necessary tools and keys to apply consciously on a daily basis to better my relationships with family and friends. Alhamdulilah I was made aware of being in the here and now and most importantly using my precious moments in the best possible manner to achieve only the most positive results. My journey to self healing and growth does not end just here,
May Allah ta'ala shower HIS most abundant ni'maths on Br Zuhair Girach and his family, ameen
I feel that it's helped me to question my thoughts, feelings, and emotions and to better recognize the relationship between my daily events and reality and the impact it's having on my health....
I am extremely grateful for the skills that the Ace program. I feel that it's helped me to question my thoughts, feelings and emotions and to better recognize the relationship between my daily events and reality and the impact it's having on my health. In addition to learning recognize patterns in my life and where they are developing. It's also helped enabled me to feel like I'm able to regain control over my life which is a huge issue for. I love the fact that I can now recognize when I'm reacting as opposed to responding and and and to investigate why I am doing so.
It has allowed me to really dig deep into what issues were coming up. This question in particular was a game changer WHY DOES IT MATTER?...
I initially did this module to add to my tool kit in helping clients in there journey to healing. However it has SubhanaAllah helped me personally to analyse my own thoughts and self talk with increased awareness of my mind chatter.
It has allowed me to really dig deep into what issues were coming up. This question in particular was a game changer WHY DOES IT MATTER?
The ACE mindset module has aided me in increasing self awareness, being the observer of my thoughts, stopping and challenging negative thoughts, responding rather than reacting and recognising what emotions are coming to the surface and the triggers associated with them. It also has been revision for me on what was covered in workshops enhancing my knowledge and understanding of working with changing the mindset.
The Q and A in particular a few days go really helped me understand on a personal level more work needs to be done on clearing what is coming to the surface from previous issues.
Ultimately I am not being so hard on myself and feel proud of how far I have come Alhamdulillah. It really is so easy to help others but doing the innerwork and introspection yourself is difficult but not impossible. I am excited to continue to working on myself and to continue with the next module on business set up.
JazakaAllah khayr brother Zuhair for your continued support, encouragement and reminders that healing is messy, a process and a life long journey.
Even through sickness, I understood I had layers and layers to peel through to get to the core limiting belief. SubhanAllah, the shift, when it came, gave me the energy to fight the sickness...
I don’t think I had understood Allah SWTs miracles fully until I embarked on the Personal Development course with Ustad Zuhair Girach.
Started working on myself and paying heed to blameworthy traits (reference: Degrees of the Soul).
Through sickness and health, my body responded to certain thoughts. Anger and unforgiving emotions would cause pain in my body. Excessive eating would lead to illness and weakness and a coldness. Too much strain on my life left my head buzzing with a million thoughts until severe sickness prevailed.
Each day I said to myself; Allah supports me in my journey and I am supported in my journey. I am loved and grateful.
Even through sickness, I understood I had layers and layers to peel through to get to the core limiting belief. SubhanAllah, the shift, when it came, gave me the energy to fight the sickness. Either that, or my self limiting belief was the sickness. But when I realise what I had been doing to me and my life, Alhamdullilah, another change.
We are not here to serve everyone else’s needs. Our purpose isn’t just for the Creation. To achieve our purpose, we must work on ourselves first. Simple, but we let so many things come in the way. If we truly want to see a change, we change ourselves first.
May it be long lasting.
May it help me serve better.
May it make me better.
I just stared at my notes and said: "Really!? Is that what I actually believe about myself!?"...
Week 3 had been a revelation. So much came out into the open for me in my personal limiting self beliefs that I was absolutely mortified, really surprised and totally caught off guard.
I just stared at my notes and said: "Really!? Is that what I actually believe about myself!?" 😱
My first realisation was that these beliefs had been projected on me from childhood onwards.
Others had been unkind or plain thoughtless with the way they communicated with me.
My second realisation was that although I believed these negative self beliefs were projected on me, at some point I took those beliefs on and and made them my own.
My third realisation was I had to now take on personal responsibility and ownership that at some point I began believe these negative self beliefs and carry them around with me. So it was now up to me to reconnect with my original authentic self.
Taking on personal responsibility has really helped me because I blame others less. I point the finger at other people less. There's less of "they/he/she did this to me.
I'm trying to look at it more as a valuable lesson learnt.
A hidden blessing amongst the pain.
Taking on personal responsibility has also helped me with my Istighfaar. It has helped me in understanding that at some point it was me that chose to believe and act upon that which was not true.
I'm finding taking personal responsibility for your thoughts and actions may seem frightening but it is actually really empowering and liberating. It takes you out of poor me, victim mode and puts you back in control, back in the driving seat. InshaAllah you can eventually get of the merry go round you end up stuck on! 🥴
InshaAllah now I can create a positive affirmations list.
The ACE programme has allowed me to detach from myself, challenged my thinking to look at alternative options/narratives and beyond...
The group support and spirit is amazing. I have been equiped with tools and strategies to understand myself, improve my performance and be accountable. The ACE programme has allowed me to detach from myself, challenged my thinking to look at alternative options/narratives and beyond. I am always concious of my behaviour and try to be a better person. Most importantly, the emphasis of this programme is to improve your relationship with Allah Azzawajjal. Definately recommend if you want to maximise your performance and be more efficient. May Allah Azzawajjal answer all of Ustadh Zuhairs duas. Ameen
Alhamdulillah I'm feeling optimistic now...
Going through the questioning the thoughts process has made me realise that my limiting beliefs are:
- lack of time
- woman is subjugated to man and does not have to use her brains as she has too much to do with housework and kids.
Alhamdulillah since I let go of these limiting beliefs I have:
- applied for a promotion at work (this is something that managers at work have been telling me to do for the last 2 years but never did)
- organised zoom sessions for parents of kids that i teach to help them get an introduction to Tajweed rules their kids are learning so they can support them Alhamdulillah I'm feeling optimistic now 🙂
The observation lead to realisation that I did everything for everyone around me to the best of my ability and when it came to personal goals I put them off. Why? Fear of failure!...
I would like to share my experience so far, and I must say it has been absolutely amazing!
I started off with just observing my thoughts especially the ones I wake up with and the ones I have the last thing at night before falling asleep. The morning thoughts normally revolved around my responsibilities as a mum and the nightly ones being "Another day gone by and I didn't do anything that I wanted to do for myself"
The observation lead to realisation that I did everything for everyone around me to the best of my ability and when it came to personal goals I put them off. Why? Fear of failure! Where I wondered does this come from? After a lot of contemplation: it comes from my parents being perfectionists...there was no room for mistakes, everything had to be done right the first time. Another reason, my father always thought I was second best because I was a girl...(Alhumdulillah, that has changed, he has changed 😊) and he always assumed the worst of me especially when I was a teenager. Reason no.3: I was compared to my other cousins who were, I was told, so good-looking, mature and held themselves up so well.
These feelings of low self-esteem and fear of not succeeding was compounded by my ex-husband who was physically abusive towards me and had told me he would never want children with me as I wouldn't give him beautiful children and then a year later being forced to have an abortion, May Allah SWT forgive me for such a despicable crime.
Observation of thought became obsession of the past traumas I had faced and one more realisation dawned on me: I had lost myself because I always tried to be like someone else: anyone around me at that point in time who was according to my programming, better looking, had achieved career wise or anything else.
As the ACE work shop progressed, I started to shift my focus...Allah SWT sent these tests to me, I am going to be stronger through it all. I realise the only ones I want to be like are the beautiful Sahabis I read about. I am genuinely a person who wants to help people around me, feel for all suffering that I come across and have the ability to make dua for removal of everyone's suffering...and that is not a bad thing! Alhumdulillah!
I have started taking small steps towards achieving my personal goals such as memorisation of Quran surahs, taking time to exercise and look after my nutrition. Every time I hear that voice in my head saying "I will never be able to do this" I say to myself "Stop! I CAN do this. And I will keep trying until I do! Even if I don't succeed the first time, it doesn't matter! I will get there in the end!"
All this self analysis and the tools I used were part of ACE and I would recommend everyone to take it up. You don't have anything to lose and everything to gain! The journey might be tough but the result is beautiful!
JazakAllah Khair to Brother Zuhair for his work and patience throughout the workshop. May Allah SWT grant him and his family with all the best in this life and the hereafter Ameen!
Intentions are powerful and the facilitation has been tremendously helpful in accordance with my goals and I have had many awakening moments...
I am deeply humbled and thankful for being on this group. I believe that we all have been chosen for some purpose and have gone through life experiences to mould us to live that purpose and yet I'm so amazed at synchronisation and the timing of this course in my life and engaging with many other's going through life's challenges together. It has given me strength to step into awareness knowing I'm not alone
The shifts I have had are
1.Listening to my thoughts has brought me to the present and helped me recognise that I was always thinking of the past or future
2.I assumed I was on the right track and had a plan of becoming a successful career woman before I think about family friends love
But what I had done was closed myself of feeling
I was so consumed with telling myself there's more to do.I cannot rest
Love is painful .Love us sacrifice but I was searching for myself when I should have been searching for Allah and talking to him.
I had been listening to affirmations ...now I have learned to Add at the end with Allah's permission and help
3.I have had emotional outbursts when I eventually allowed myself to feel trying to forget or stop the thought and feeling was making it worse
4.Writing it down has shifted me tremendously as it made me accountable
The realisation of what I have been saying to myself as a child was that I'm not deserving and I have to fight for what I want. ...that has led me to be in constant battle with myself and attracting toxic relationships and painful relationships because of my own expectations
5.In the beginning I was questioning Allah now I'm questioning myself Alhamdullilah that's a big shift
6.I also had a huge shift regarding procrastination
By thinking I will live when I'm done slaving ...
And now I am starting to slow down give myself a break and actually be with the person in front of me
Even if it's the mirror and listening to my mind has helped me listen to my body and soul
Pushing myself to get things done now
Contact people now
I used to procrastinate my meals and fun to get work done and my mind could never totally focus on the work
When I'm in the shower my mind is driving to work when I'm at work I'm thinking about spending time and making up time with my kids hence living in self doubt and self punishment as I'm never good enough or doing enough....I have started recognising that the procrastination was happening because I was not in the present and not even breathing deeply
7.I have listened to the stories and experiences on the group and it has made me realise that I was so busy living in my head that I wasn't connecting and by connecting I felt appreciated and accepted and understood
And it has made me realise that I have to relax
8.The most amazing thing is that each time I was battling with something either brother Zuhair would address it or someone had an experience that taught me a lesson
That ...I know is from Allah and the intentions made upon beginning the course is
To stop procrastination and self doubt
9.The disease in my head of not living in the moment is extremely difficult and I have accepted that healing has begun and Alhamdullilah I think the first step as we learned on this course is intention
Alhamdullilah intentions are powerful and the facilitation has been tremendously helpful in accordance with my goals and I have had many awakening moment's
I'm still learning about myself the world and Allah
Again extremely grateful for the timing of the course in my life
May Allah reward you all Abundantly and help us all to search for him and find peace in him
May Allah give us the ability to carry out our purpose and become a blessing to other's from our own healed soul's. Ameen🤲🏻
I believe the secret is in creating awareness in people who are stuck and struggling to stop pointing and stressing over the behavior of others and to rather focus on themselves...
On a personal level I have for along time felt stuck.
I've not known or understood how to fix things, get them right or heal.
I've had many people say walk away, let it go. I've had to deal with so much internal pain as a result of the behaviour of others and my personal attitude and response when in a scenario.
What I've lacked is someone who has been able to point out where I am going wrong and what I need to do to fix myself.
I've always thought healing and fixing problem was to deal with, Highlight, guide and fix others.
It is only now through the ACE program that I'm beginning to recognize that it is my mindset, attitude and behaviour that I need to change and fix.
I'm more at peace with highlighting what is essential and bringing the focus back to me.
A skill and knowledge I wasn't aware of.
I believe the secret is in creating awareness in people who are stuck and struggling to stop pointing and stressing over the behaviour of others and to rather focus on themselves. To heal and elevate themselves before they can focus outwards at external issues.
I used to want validation from everyone around me, wanting them to acknowledge my efforts towards them...yet somehow I always seemed to be invisible to them.
I learnt to change my intention, (as Bro Zuhair says): Everything I now do is only for Allah SWT. Everything that comes my way is from Allah SWT. Alhumdulillah now I feel content, simply because I tell myself I am doing this for my Rabb and I hope for his reward, mercy and forgiveness only from Him SWT...Any recognition from dunya is now looked upon as a blessing but I don't expect it. It's been hard to get to this point though, but now that I am here I don't want to be anywhere else 😊
Centre Allah SWT in your world and everything else just fades
All this time I was trapped in this thinking of...this is all Allaah wants of me and i deserve this and there's nothing out there for me...but Alhamdulillah for the realisation Allaah wants more for me but it's my thoughts that have trapped me...
Salam....without going into to much detail....a moment of realisation that i had after listening to session 3.....that i deserve better....and that better will happen..when i change myself...as Allaah say He wont change the condition of the people until they change themselves....
All this time i was trapped in this thinking of...this is all Allaah wants of me and i deserve this and there's nothing out there for me...but Alhamduillaah for the realisation Allaah wants more for me but its my thoughts that have trapped me...
This has given me hope...to try to work harder to change my situation...nd inshaAllaah Allaah will open doors..
Through this course, I have discovered that my illness is related to my emotional state and that my body can heal...
Aafiyah Healing offers you practical workshops to teach and demonstrate the wonders of emotional and energy healing.
Brother Zuhair has extensive knowledge and experience in this field which he shares with his students in a relaxed, learning environment. He expertly manages to simplify ideas, theories and healing techniques with an Islamic twist to help us on our healing journey.
Instead of becoming overwhelmed with all this new material, I felt I was able to understand and apply the techniques immediately. Students performed these techniques in class and we saw immediate results.
I have suffered from. Rheumatoid Arthritis for over 15 years. Doctors say there is no cure and I struggle to live with the pain. However through this course, I have discovered that my illness is related to my emotional state and that my body can heal. I have already used some techniques to lower my pain levels.
This course has not just provided me with valuable knowledge but has also given me hope for the future.
Thank you Aafiyah Healing for opening my eyes to the power of holistic medicine.
This course cleared any doubts I had and also taught me the power of healing...
When the student is ready the teacher will appear.
Having worked as a teacher and set up a mentoring program for young people. I felt there had to be more to help others. So I studied counseling, life coaching, dabbled in NLP, CBT, hypnotherapy, nutrition etc. Although I believed in its benefits there was always doubt when critics called certain aspects haraam.
One area I had not looked into and always believed it was for the privileged few was healing. So when this course came up it aroused my curiosity and felt intrigued to go. This course cleared any doubts I had and also taught me the power of healing. I always believed Allah SWT made things with a purpose eg. Gems, stones, etc. I felt this course was the missing link in all of my learning and research.
This course is the basis of our religion and humanity, think positive, believe in Allah SWT alone, love for others what you love for yourself, believe and make dua for others as well as yourself. It is all about being a bigger and genuine person.
If anybody is interested in helping others then start off with this course as this is the crux to everything else.
I just wish I had learned this when I was teaching in primary school and when I worked with troubled teenagers.
Although brother Zuhair has a light-hearted, fun approach to this subject it is very deep and significant and will Insha'Allah have a massive impact on all areas of your life and everyone you come into contact with.
It's really helping me to identity my weaknesses and asking questions in every area of my life...
Jzk Br. For this eye-opening course. It's really helping me to identity my weaknesses and asking questions in every area of my life. Situations and events events are becoming more clearer and it always gone back to, the fact that I let this happened. We are always so eager to blame others, play the victim but if we just stopped to question, why am I doing this? What do I want to achieve and for whom? Things become clearer. Alhamduillah
Doing the thought audit during the day, going back to basics such as smiling...
I’ve enjoyed every bit of it.
I’ve found the personal development side the most beneficial. Doing the thought audit during the day, going back to basics such as smiling and positive affirmations. The shift is so apparent in my house.
Every one was deep, with alot of reflection..I thank Allah for placing me in ACE coaching sessions. No end to learning and healing..
Assalamun alaikum...i have found this session really beneficial...its made me question my life and my purpose and what am i really doing...its a slow process but alhamduillaah its a start....its going to take a while to fully accept nd change my lifelong belief and that things can be different. I have started to watch my thought and feeimg more often amd see what triggers certain reactions and how i can best deal with them in an effective manner within the islamic framework.. sometime i forget and go back to my old habit but inshaAllaah graudually i will become more mindful...
Really enjoyed all the sessions Alhamdullilah. every one was deep,alot of reflection....
.I thank Allah for placing me in ACE coaching sessions. No end to learning and healing
It’s been a huge self-discovery for me and my family, khandaan and friends , but I think the personal audit was the biggest and most profound reflection to date...
I loved the whole Aafiyah principles, due to the fact I had to heal myself before healing others.
Some points were more explained in this month on this programme and clicked into place so I can better inform my clients
As we are learning the right terminology and understanding the Islamic principles to it, so it feels more understandable.
If you ask me what I have been doing past month I cannot tell you, it’s been a huge self-discovery for me and my family, khandaan and friends , but i think the personal audit was the biggest and profound reflection to date